Good Monday Morning.
How’s it been?
Hope the year has been great so far? Being in September makes it seem like it’s already the end of 2015. December will be here any minute from now. Lol
And if you feel the year hasn’t been all that, remember that God hasn’t forgotten you. David tended to sheep where no one noticed him, till he was made king over his brothers. This could be your learning period, so enjoy it and sap as many lessons as you can!
Everything’s gonna be alright now.
Today we’re talking on a word that isn’t very common with we Nigerian folks. Sadly, even Christians.
We had a guest preacher some weeks back in Church and the man spoke on truthfulness.
Why do we even lie?
I think it’s important to ask that, because there’s always a motive behind everything.
Will the one we’re lying to beat us if we told the truth?
Another thing we should establish is that there’s nothing such as a white lie! A lie is a lie.
So, let’s say you were to meet up with Bolu for dinner tonight. And she’s already at the restaurant waiting and then she calls to ask where you are; what will your answer be?
A Nigerian will probably say “I’m on my way. I’m almost there!”
Even when they haven’t stepped out of their house.
It’s little abi? And shouldn’t mean that much. But imagine you keep doing this to Bolu over a period of time. Before you know it, Bolu wouldn’t take your word for it anymore. And when another person tells Bolu that you say you’re closeby, she’d burst your bubble and tell them you’re lying. Though for the first time, you may actually be telling the truth.
At a place I’ve worked, I’ve been asked to put lies in a mail or call someone and say something I know isn’t true. But I always always say “but that’s a lie.”
And yes, it’s a Christian workplace, so to say.
The invited preacher talked about how that’s why the country is the way it is! No one can trust another because lies have been told way too many times.
Brother A and B do a contract, but brother B doesn’t want to be exactly truthful about the exact amount the contractors paid. Brother A suspects this and a once loyal partnership breaks and they begin to hate themselves and find ways to steal from each other.
Why can’t we just tell the truth! It’s as simple as that!
Few days ago, I was clearing the kitchen and threw the bread that remained in the bin because I thought it had spent too much time on the shelf.
But as I cooked in the afternoon, my dad entered and asked for the bread! Gobe!
I initially wanted to lie and say I’d eaten it because I knew he’d not mind that.
After some seconds of thinking it through and remembering the invited preacher, I told him I threw it away. My dad was angry, but he walked away and waited for his lunch!
When he left, I felt the Holy Spirit rooting for me and saying I’d done the right thing!
And I said to myself, “Bolaji, he didn’t beat or eat your head off for telling the truth.”
And please don’t tell me this is little because it isn’t!
In fact, if you tell the truth at the time when the whole world sees you and tell lies when you think no one knows, you actually lack integrity!
And it can be so heartbreaking when unbelievers are the truthful ones. It shouldn’t be so!
I read a statement sometime back by a man who said “Your Jesus I like, it’s your Jesus followers I don’t like.” (Paraphrased).
As a Christian, people must be able to know you as a truthful man/woman. Don’t go around calling yourself a Christian if you can’t simply live the Christian live.
Don’t use a bumper sticker that says “Jesus is Lord”, if you aren’t living the live Jesus asked you to live out.
In the one week camp I volunteered at as a mentor. A facilitator who’s an expert in child development asked us to never tell a lie to a child!
One that’s common is this: when you’re going out and don’t want your child/nephew/niece to cry. You tell him/her to enter the house and then run out.
Truth is, the child will still cry when he/she finds out you’ve gone without them. But what you’re slowly doing is teaching the child not to trust. You’d even notice that as time goes on, the child starts crying once you say you’re going out. It would not matter anymore even if you asked the child to enter because you’re coming back soon. He/she already thinks you’re lying.
Seems little right? But it isn’t!
And it’s this simple: DO NOT LIE!
Another great mistake you can make is to start a business/organization on lies. God has to be a partner in that business and He can’t do the extraordinary things He wants to do through you if you’re a liar. You’d only be out there spoiling His name.
No one knows the information in the mail/tweet/text/comment you send is a lie.
But God knows.
And He’s taking account of it all.
It’s never too late. If you’ve been lying, you can stop today! Right now.
And even if a lie ‘drops’ from your mouth, don’t hesitate to let the other party know that it was a lie and you’re sorry.
For those of us that think it’s impossible not to lie to our parents as students! Hmm, a whole article would still not be enough to stress it.
You lie to your parents(to get extra cash); and your children will lie to you for same.
And please don’t use the excuse that it’s not possible as a student, because it is!
Sorry if this post sounds like I’m ranting. But as Christians, we just ought to be truthful.
There’s no shame about it!
Proverbs 12:22 states: Lying lips are abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly are his delight.
Have a safe week ahead.