The word- Jealousy.

The word- Jealousy.

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Good morning/afternoon/evening to you. (Depending on the time you’re reading this.)

How was your weekend? (Answer o, I can hear you. 😀)
Ok. Mine was simple and good too, thanks for asking. 💚

Today’s message on Jealousy is one I’m excited about. I used to be the Queen of Jealousy. In fact, my name was synonymous with the word ‘jealous’- but all of this was before I knew Christ.

But even after that, I have to admit that I have had to fight it occasionally.

Like when I started blogging, I wanted to be like other bloggers and didn’t like the amount of views I saw under my posts.
But I knew I was being selfish, wanting the same result as those who had been blogging 4-5 years before me.

Anyway, this isn’t even my point today.

Before Christ, I’d visit my friends and wish my family was like theirs.
I’d be jealous because I wanted to travel like them every summer.

My heart was just so bitter and my discontentment was obvious. I was always going to sleep over at people’s houses and ashamed to invite them to my own place.

Now ehn, I can’t even stress myself. In fact, I kinda made up my mind that I wasn’t seeing anybody this holiday if they couldn’t come to Ikorodu to see me.
I’m the kind of person that can travel to another state to visit a friend, and people complain that Ikorodu is far.

Anyway, I’ve still not gotten to my point…

I read about Saul and David on Saturday and I want to focus on jealousy in the believer’s perspective.

I smiled as I read about Saul’s jealousy towards David and realized that it was David’s foundation and heart that made God love him so much.

The women of Israel put David in trouble when they danced and sang…

Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.
Saul was very angry; this refrain galled him. “They have credited David with tens of thousands,” he thought, “but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?”
And from that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David.
1 Samuel 18: 7-9


Saul knew that God had just used David to deliver the Israelites, and instead of commending David’s bravery, he let jealousy take root.

The Spirit of the Lord had left Saul though he was still King. He recognized this Spirit was alive in David and he hated him for it.

I’ve learned that the first step to killing jealousy in your life is to commend the person. Compliment them from a place of love and search your heart- you’d be surprised to find out that the jealousy either reduced or vanished.

But one thing that is sure to clear jealousy is praying for the person. If Saul had relaxed, and said a simple prayer for David, maybe his life would have turned around for the better.

I remember a time in school that I was broker than broke itself. Only for my roomie to testify during school fellowship that she had been paid her salary of 3 months all at once. (She works per time at school.)
Guess what happened?
Bolaji got jealous.

I thought about how I had been praying for my finances, and God now skipped me and chose my roomie. (Sorry guys, I am being truthful.)

Thank God for Jesus in my life. I later realized that this money she had received might have even been because God wanted to provide for me too.

You see, people are amazed at the relationship I have with Kris (my roomie) and if you didn’t know that we were from different tribes, you’d think we were biological sisters. Plus, people ask us if we’re twins when we go to new places because we kinda look alike too.

When she’s broke, I have to be the “breadwinner” of the house and when I’m broke, she has to be the “breadwinner” of the house o. 😂😂😂
Funny, but true.

Instead of me to stay jealous, I figured it was for the better that they paid her salary. If not, both of us will be broke.
So one day as I washed plates, God laid it on my heart to begin to pray for her.

The devil must have been mad, because the jealousy vanished and never returned.


Who are you jealous of?
Pray for the person…

And then, pray for yourself with all sincerity. God already knows your heart so ask Him to take away jealousy from you.

If we can guard our hearts, the world would be a better place. A lot of problems in the world today springs from the fact that people don’t guard their hearts.

People are jealous and can kill to get wealth and all sorts of things that don’t matter.

As believers, let’s use intercession as a weapon to fight jealousy.

Saul tried to kill David and David escaped his spear twice. Note that David was helping Saul sooth his evil spirit by playing the harp and instead of cherishing him or building a relationship with David, he wanted to kill him.

Verse 12-14
Saul was afraid of David, because the Lord was with David but had left Saul. So he sent David away from him and gave him command OVER A THOUSAND MEN and David led the troops in their campaigns. In everything he did he had great success, because the Lord was with him.


Do you remember the song the women were singing to Saul when David killed Goliath?

Saul has slain his thousands, David his TENS OF THOUSANDS…

Saul wanted to prove a point when he put David in charge of a thousand men. I strongly believe that David would have been successful even if Saul put him in charge of 10,000 men.
But he put him in charge of only 1 thousand because he wanted to show the Israel women that David wasn’t capable of overseeing even a thousand men.

I hope you’re getting the point here.

Saul didn’t deal with his jealousy fast and he started misbehaving.
Deal with your jealousy FAST!
Don’t think because you’re tongue-speaking and spirit-filled; you’d never have to deal with jealousy… Because you will.

Verse 28-29
When Saul realized that the Lord was with David and that his daughter Michal loved David, Saul became still more afraid of him, and he remained his enemy the rest of his days…
David met with more success than the rest of Saul’s officers, and his name became well known.

Joseph is my best Bible Character, but after reading and meditating on David, I think he’s coming close. Probably my second son’s name…anyway…

Jealousy is real and you can’t ignore it.
Instead, fight it with love, compliments and prayers.
These are what work for me, so, please share what works for you so I can add it to my list.

I know that some of us are David in this story, where we have someone who hates us so much like Saul.

If you don’t know what to do about your situation, read about David.

Do you know that when David had the chance to kill Saul, he didn’t.
Because he believed that God still loved Saul even though His spirit had left him.

That’s why I think what’s common with Joseph and David is their God-Factor.

They always tried to know God’s heart before taking any decision.


God doesn’t want us to be jealous.

Because jealousy leads to a truckload of junk like hatred, stealing, gossiping, lying and even killing.

Let’s deal with these little foxes now. Right now.

Go out of your way to compliment that person today, pray for them, then read 1 Corinthians 13 replacing your name with love.

The word of God works, use it.



Mahn. I know that I’d have to read this post over and over again.

I hope it blessed you like it has blessed me?

I get jealous too and thought to share what has helped me.

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  • Nice one B…i actually realised that when I started complimenting and congratulating people..there was no place for jealousy to even develop..

    • Thanks Didi. Glory to God.

      I honestly think complimenting people really works. But only if we’re genuinely congratulating them from a heart of love and repentance from jealousy. Lol.

      Have an amazing week ahead. Much love.

  • Oyinda

    I loved this dear. It’s really a timely message.

    You won’t believe that just this morning I was jealous of a friend due to something she’s about doing and I planned on doing, but wasn’t serious about it.

    This jealousy made my quiet time really queit because I didn’t hear even one word for God.

    Jealousy is really a poison and speeds like cancer, so we must catch ir fast!!! 😍

    Thanks sweet 😘

    • Praise God dear.

      It still happened to me today and God reminded me that everyone’s path is different. I do not have to envy anyone because my destiny is different from theirs.
      God already sees your heart, so confess it and ask Him to work on your heart. Peace will return and you’d be able to hear Him again.
      Jealousy causes more worse thinks, so it’s better we deal with it fast.

      Much love dear.

  • Bukola Dabi

    This is so IT ….. I learnt and i affirmed at the same time.
    GOD BLESS YOU HONEY… I just had to share and will continue to by God’s grace.

    When I notice ‘j’ is about to creep in or it has creeped in unconsciously.. i try to start appreciating something in the person or I talk to myself and say.. your time will come so why this/ I will get there one day and someone will act this way … then why not act like you want someone else to ……


    Weldone dear…

    • Aww Bukola. Glory to God. God bless you too.

      Haha. I like the part of talking to yourself! Awesome. I’d start trying that as well. I definitely don’t one someone to be envious of me, so I shouldn’t abhor jealousy too.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts sis.

      God bless. Stay awesome.

  • Hi ‘Bolaji,

    I like your writing voice, there’s subtle humour and a relevant message was delivered.

    I used to think jealousy and envy were the same.

    I’ve learned that on the one hand, jealousy is outrightly full of bitterness and negativity, on the other hand, while envy does have strong undertones of resentment, envy can be gently coaxed and transformed into positive motivation.

    Only if one allows envy to inspire them to work harder for what they want. Without the bitterness of course. Lol

    • Hello Nedoux!
      Welcome welcome to the efamily…😊💚

      Thank you for your kind words.

      That’s a new way of looking at things. I know both aren’t exactly the same, but I’ve never really thought about their differences.

      The thing is, not many people know how to turn envy into a good thing. So instead of even using that word, I’d rather both jealousy and envy are dismissed.

      We can admire someone, pray for them and use some of their tactics personally.
      It’s kinda hard to see envy without bitterness though…lol

      Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. Have a great time ahead!

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