Hey hey hey!
You know I’ve been indicating that God has been setting me up to share stuff about myself that I’d naturally not share.
As I was battling early this morning whether I heard God right. I wanted to give myself excuse not to share…
Then I ‘mistakenly’ opened the journal I wrote my goals in and my eyes hit “Submit to God. Resist the devil & he will flee from you.”
Ok, God, I’m submitting with this post. Sigh. Though, I’d admit, I’m scared. Lol.
But I know someone will read this and realize that not having sex doesn’t mean the same thing as purity.
Before I ended my last relationship, I’d been telling friends that I was ready to have sex. (I think I was 15+ or 16). That I wasn’t waiting till marriage again.
Truth is, I’d already been doing stuff that one should only do with their spouse.
Ok, here it goes!
It amazes me now when friends tell me stuff I used to tell them before I got born again.
I was brought up in a Christian home, but not taking God seriously blinded me.
Sometimes I’m grateful I’m not one of those people who remembers every single thing that happens in the past. I have a friend who remembers almost everything from secondary school. It’s like an advantage to me really…
Ok. So the only two relationships I’ve ever been in weren’t pure. I think I was 15 when I had my first boyfriend & probably 16 when I had the second.
Now that I think about it, I’m dazed!
I’m going to be 21 this year and I’ve been single and haven’t been touched or kissed for over 4 years; but doesn’t change the fact that I did some sturvvs…
Lol. Can you feel that I’m still stalling to share…
I remember one time, I sat with a friend and we were actually doing a ‘mini’ competition of how many boys we’d kissed.
Yeah, I dated just 2, but kissed many more.
I was even foolish to think I was ‘doing’ my Ex (still bf then). Just imagine.
I started doing rubbish around, cuz I thought I was paying him back. (I thought he was cheating & though I don’t have proof till today, I can bet he was). So, I thought I was paying him back.
With my body.
This was someone that didn’t even know what I was doing o. So how could I have been paying him back? But that’s what the devil will have me think.
I could have even had a mouth disease from the way I was sharing my mouth from one person to the other at that time. I kissed different people in one day & didn’t care.
Some thought I cared for them & some knew we were just fooling around with each other. Nothing serious.
Side note: I just paused to pray that this will really bless someone who isn’t in too deep. I’m begging God here that this really changes a life, cuz sharing this isn’t easy.
Ok. So, when a person says ‘I’m not having sex’, but is doing all what I did, they’re not pure.
People tend to think that once it’s not sex, then it’s ok! Well, it’s not. Your body is the temple of the Lord and the Holy Spirit can not live where there’s so much dirt!
Before I finally broke up with my second boyfriend, he touched me plenty everywhere & fingered me. (I’m still struggling not to share. God!)
I’m guessing you know what being fingered means… It’s when we sisters open our legs for someone to look into our V’s and maybe touch them…
I wasn’t having sex, but I wasn’t pure before God.
And if I hadn’t stopped dating him at the time I did, I would have had sex with him. No doubt.
But God, thank you!!!
I guess that’s why I feel the need to speak to girls and let them know that they shouldn’t have sex with a guy just cuz he’s promising heaven & earth; and that even though they might not be having sex, it doesn’t mean they’re pure if they’re allowing a guy touch their breasts and bombom!
I have a very close malefriend who used to tease me abt seeing my first bf touch me in ISI (my secondary school), but now he NEVER brings it up!
He’s not born again (yet), but I guess he understands redemption and now respects me for my faith. Cuz I used to get teased abt being born again too.
You might look at your past and wonder if people remember…
But I tell you, it doesn’t matter anymore!
As long as you’re now in Christ, you have such a clean slate that you can’t even begin to imagine it.
I’m not saying my ex shouldn’t remember the things we did together, I’m saying even if he does, it can’t affect me anymore. (Especially now that I’ve shared it here. I actually feel a release…I’ve NEVER shared these things with anyone before).
Remember how I didn’t know I was holding on this dress, well I guess I can let my past go fully now.
I might share as led later, but I think I’ve just outlined my worst former self here.
So now, I tell my Christian friends that I’m not kissing (talk less of any nonsense anyhow touch) before marriage, and they look at me like I’m crazy. Very CHRISTIAN friends o.
But everyone has their own resolve with God. And this is mine. No form of sexual relation before marriage.
Plus, my next bf is my husband sef. Lol! There’s no longer time to be fooling around.
And it will not be by my own power. But by God’s grace.
And if you’ve been contemplating that you don’t want to kiss before marriage, don’t ever let anyone make you feel like it’s impossible. I know tons of people who have done it (by God’s grace) and now share their story.
It will not be easy, but it’s not impossible.
So yeah, I’ve just laid it all bare.
Not having sex doesn’t mean same as purity o.
My friends and I sometimes even joke that what some people who haven’t had sex do, is crazier than what those who have sex do sometimes.
Don’t be deceived o.
God help us all.
As people sometimes joke-
I’m glad God ‘arrested’ me when He did. I’m ever grateful.
1 Corinthians 6: 18-20
Flee from sexual immortality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your body.
Please, do share your lessons and thoughts with us! The comment box is smiling & waiting for your response.
Can I plead that you also share this with a friend or two, you never know who God will touch with this. Thank you.
I was hoping to share some blog (and maybe personal) goals for this year with you guys. I’d do that maybe in another article.
P.S- God said He’d stretch me & take me through not so comfortable routes this year. I guess this is the beginning. I did not wake knowing I will share this today. Oh well!
God, I told you I was ready…