Good Wednesday Morning!
I know you guys must be used to ‘Good Monday Morning’, but how about we switch Mondays and Wednesdays for our greetings?
It’s important to speak life into your day and that’s why I love saying ‘Good Morning’, because it’s a way of speaking positivity into one’s day. Just wake and determine in your heart, that no matter what, joy will not cease from you this day. Amen!
To the topic of the day.
I do hope that joy overflows in me through out the day. This is because what I’m about to talk about breaks my heart
and makes me want to slap someone.
I read Frances’ post on BellaNaija on how guys need to stop saying ‘Come to my house’ to ladies and I shared some experiences with her.
As I was walking to board a bus sometime last week, I became scared. There were no lions, snakes
or cats on the road. There were men.
I wasn’t scared because they would beat me, I was just afraid of getting a silly remark from any of them. You know when you’re walking and you unexpectedly see a lot of guys, you just want to change roads or look straight as if you can’t see anyone.
Well, I had to take option B. There was no other road.
It’s not that I think all men are the same, it’s just that I’ve been called ‘heyzzz, fine geh’ so many times that I’m tired.
It’s also not the case that I am so beautiful that every man notices when I pass, it’s that most ladies have experienced this. It doesn’t matter how fine one is.
Not long after, as I walked to the office, a guy called me ‘sexy’ as I walked by him. By that time, I was furious! Another still called me ‘Angel’ yesterday and I just thought; CAN SOMEONE TEACH THESE MEN!
Imagine if a bunch of ladies called out to men as they walked by. Wouldn’t the society see something bad with that?
So why is it acceptable for men to do same?
Most of my friends call me a feminist because they know I’m always ready to argue rights of women during our classes that relate to that topic. I can say I’m a healthy feminist, I don’t want to take over the world and neither do I think “girls run the world.” I think men and women run the world, so why shouldn’t women be accorded the same respect that men are given?
Oh! This makes me remember the last time I went to the market before I left school. A guy was touching and pulling me to buy something from him (this has also been accepted as normal) and I dragged my hands from his grip. Can you imagine the next thing he said to me?
“Are you a virgin? Why are you behaving as if a man doesn’t touch you every night. Rubbish. See the way she’s behaving. You don’t know that we have many beautiful girls in Nigeria. See her behaving like a virgin. Rubbish”
He didn’t know I was/am a Nigerian.
I’m sure you’re as shocked as I was. You know the type of anger where you can only smile? That was the type I had for that guy. I pitied him.
Am I an object? So why should I let you hold and drag me anyhow you wish? Trust me, it wouldn’t be the same story if it was women who dragged men and called them silly names.
I hope to have many sons and I’m going to do my best to teach them to treat and speak to women appropriately.
Most of all I’d tell them every lady has a name; and that name isn’t ‘sexy’.
I honestly felt bad as I wrote this. I just want a world where women are praised and not put down.
Hope you’ve read this week’s ‘The Word’ about kindness? You should! We need to be kind to people now more than ever because the wickedness in the world right now is something else!
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Do have a great day ahead!
God bless your week.
Love, Mobolaji (not sexy).