Me and my big mouth!

Me and my big mouth!

Hey hey hey!

When a fool speaks, he is ruining himself; he gets caught in the trap of his own words. Proverbs 18-7 GNB

My imperfections will never override God’s promises. God’s promises are not dependent on my ability to always choose well, but rather on His ability to use well.
(From my Proverbs31 devotional.)

Like my Mama Joyce Meyer, I have a big mouth and I tend to often use it well. If you know what I mean…

I read her book a while back- Me and my big mouth and it focuses a lot on how to tame the tongue and use it to glorify God.

But, how do we use our tongues to glorify God when we want other people to know just how much they’ve hurt us?
Do we hold our lips and act dumb when people do painful stuff to us?

Well, I don’t know about you, but right when I’m about to say something silly, the Holy Spirit warns me.

My reaction after His warning is what will tell if I’ve obeyed or not.
Yesterday, I didn’t obey.

How can I be tired and hurt and not use my mouth to show it?

But guess what set in right after I’d used my big mouth- guilt.
Because, one, I had disobeyed God.
Two, I had hurt someone else.
Three, I felt like a witch who had refused to be changed by God.

You will have to live with the consequences of everything you say. What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words.
Proverbs 18: 20-21 GNB

I’ve also noticed something, when I allow God lead me with words, I sound really wise!
I’m not even kidding, I surprise myself when I speak in a Godly manner.

A person’s words can be a source of wisdom, deep as the ocean, fresh as a flowing stream.  
Proverbs 18:4 GNB

But you don’t want to hear me when I speak of my flesh- I sound very foolish.

When a fool speaks, he is ruining himself; he gets caught in the trap of his own words. 
Proverbs 18:7 GNB

And the sad thing about an untamed tongue is that it sounds wise in the flesh, until the argument is over.

Maybe I should even share what happened yesterday, since we’re all still learning.

I had been loosening my hair for like 3 hours (blame tiny twists) and was tired, grumpy and hungry!
My sis was there watching Jenifa and laughing, while her laughter annoyed me.


Anyway, I asked her to please find something for us a few times. (She’s my elder sis o)
When I got tired, I stood, went to pick one egg and boiled it.

Very selfish. Lol.

God was warning me, but I didn’t answer. I told her I wasn’t going to cook for her, since she acted as if we weren’t going to eat anything.

Anyway, she went to check the pot and saw one egg. LOL!

Naso argument start. It’s funny now, but it wasn’t funny yesterday.

An hungry man can do foolish things.

It was later I now saw how silly my actions were. This was the same sis that ALWAYS cooked and didn’t see it as a big deal.

I’m sorry, but I’m not a fan of the kitchen. I think she enjoys cooking, so I run from that chore most times.
Instead of me to have remembered all the times she had been tired and still cooked, I allowed my anger take over and let my flesh win.

Why am I sharing?

Because I know we all do these silly things at home, but act like saints to outsiders.

Funny how we talked about love during our TWTW Bible study on Friday.
This love walk doesn’t just happen, it’s a step after another.

It’s an obedient step after the other.

If I had ‘angrily’ boiled two eggs when God asked me to, I’d have avoided a quarrel.

I’ve apologized and the guilt is gone.

But as believers, I want us to remember to tame our tongues with God’s help.

It’s not going to be easy.

Ask my siblings, I think I used to be worse.
No, I know it.

I was mega rude and never apologized.

Now, when I’ve been rude, no matter how hard it is, I try to apologize.

I’d walk with God till I get to a stage where I don’t even have to be rude anymore. Because I’d have gotten to a stage where I ALWAYS obey God when He asks me to do the right thing- regardless of how I feel at the moment.

I just love God and want to please Him with my life.
And that’s where the quote I shared earlier comes in. He’s not asking for perfection, but a willing heart that knows it needs to change.

My imperfections will never override God’s promises. God’s promises are not dependent on my ability to always choose well, but rather on His ability to use well.
(From my Proverbs31 devotional.)

Before, I used to stay away from God for like a week when I sinned. I’ve realized that’s only going to make the devil happier, so, I run to God almost immediately after I’ve done wrong.

This morning, I felt sad for those who don’t know God or have a relationship with Him.
This God who forgives us instantly and blots out our transgressions.
Who loves us more than we can ever understand.
Who says- “Bolaji, why are you running? I’m the one you need!”

God wants you- with your selfishness and naughtiness.
Because He knows He’s the only one that can change you.

Why not let Him help you today?

He’s not saying- BE PERFECT!
He’s saying- COME AS YOU ARE!!!

Has your ‘big mouth’ ever gotten you in trouble?
How did you resolve the argument that it caused?
What lessons have you learned?

Please, share!

Have a great week ahead.

Love always,

Letters to our Fathers 2-1

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  • Good pm omo mama Joyce Meyer,

    I guess you are not alone, and so are many of us. Some of us always feel we are born to talk and talk we must.

    But for you( Christian), it can not be so.

    Isaiah, though a prophet had a similar problem until his lips was torched and his iniquity taken away.

    Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak, said the saviour.

    Our hearts need be torched and sanctified. The inbred sins must be rooted out, then we will be totally free.

    However, Communication is key and the ability to express one’s mind without being misinterpreted is a virtue.

    Nonetheless, in quietness lies our strength, says the scriptures.

    I am YouthAglow!

    • ‘Some of us feel we are born to talk and talk we must.’ LOL, so true!

      I sometimes feel like my mouth will bend if I don’t talk. Haha. But I’m learning that it more ‘blessed’ to listen than to always talk.
      We all need to get to a point where we master the tongue and it’s not our master.

      As believers, we ought to communicate in love as Jesus did. Anything outside that needs work!

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  • Do you know I was going to write a similar post to this sometime last week but I just felt I might do it this week. It’s funny now but then it wasn’t funny. Mine was even temptation to reply someone with the words ‘Oya, to the left, to the left” hehe. The thing came in beyonce’s voice so I knew it wasn’t the Holyspirit but Mr flesh. I’m glad God talked sense into me and I withdrew but the battle that went on in my mind eh, no be small thing.

    This love walk is a serious something but that’s why we have the Spirit of God to help us and work this work in us so we won’t struggle with things like this after a while. We will now become love entities walking on earth like our Savior walked.
    P.S: The egg part is hilarious. My goodness. I can so relate. Imagine. And y’know what, your spirit will be like, Bolaji it won’t cost you anything to put an extra egg into that pot o but that egoistic flesh will be like ‘do it jor. Shey I asked her to cook and she was busy watching Jenifa.’ Lmao. It’s now later when someone has done the thing, one will now start looking foolish. You don’t want to see when my brother and I are fighting over food or browser or one silly thing like that. lol. We will overcome in Jesus name.

    Loved this post. Boiling my own egg now. Come join me. xo!

    • ‘Oya to the left, to the left’ LOOOOL. Itunu! I can imagine.

      Yes! I read on love today. Read 1 Corinthians 13 and replaced love with my name. Jesus was LOVE personified, and we can’t claim to be His followers if we can’t even sprinkle His love with our words. God help us as we daily walk with Him, to obey.

      The Spirit will always suggest wise options, but Mr flesh will want to force foolishness down one’s throat. It’s sad that one only really gets to see the silliness after the action. Sigh.
      Fights with siblings can even be the worst! LOL. Siblings fight on the silliest things abeg. But, we will overcome in Jesus name! Amen!!!

      Haha. Remember to put mine in the pot o.


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