Lessons Learned: People lose your number when it’s time to pay debt.

Lessons Learned: People lose your number when it’s time to pay debt.

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Why haven't you paid the money you owe-

Happy new month efamily.

Here’s what God says about the month of September- Isaiah 55: 1-13 (NIV)

“Come, all you who are thirsty,
    come to the waters;
and you who have no money,
    come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk
    without money and without cost.

Why spend money on what is not bread,
    and your labor on what does not satisfy?
Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good,
    and you will delight in the richest of fare.
Give ear and come to me;
    listen, that you may live.
I will make an everlasting covenant with you,
    my faithful love promised to David.
See, I have made him a witness to the peoples,
    a ruler and commander of the peoples.
Surely you will summon nations you know not,
    and nations you do not know will come running to you,
because of the Lord your God,
    the Holy One of Israel,
    for he has endowed you with splendor.”

Seek the Lord while he may be found;
    call on him while he is near.
Let the wicked forsake their ways
    and the unrighteous their thoughts.
Let them turn to the Lord, and he will have mercy on them,
    and to our God, for he will freely pardon.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
    neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
    so are my ways higher than your ways
    and my thoughts than your thoughts.
10 As the rain and the snow
    come down from heaven,
and do not return to it
    without watering the earth
and making it bud and flourish,
    so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater,
11 so is my word that goes out from my mouth:
    It will not return to me empty,
but will accomplish what I desire
    and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.
12 You will go out in joy
    and be led forth in peace;
the mountains and hills
    will burst into song before you,
and all the trees of the field
    will clap their hands.
13 Instead of the thornbush will grow the juniper,
    and instead of briers the myrtle will grow.
This will be for the Lord’s renown,
    for an everlasting sign,
    that will endure forever.”

Verse 12 stood out for me. I will leave with Joy and be led in peace. Isn’t that great? I will write about how God’s peace leads us soon, when I get a deeper understanding of it.

Here are my lessons learned this week (and last week):

  1. Don’t put your hope in a bank, they can disappoint: People of God, do you agree with me that most banks in Nigeria need to learn Customer Service? There is a particular bank I always pray before I step in- because they specialize in annoying people. Before it starts to seem like I’m complaining, my lesson earlier this week was that I can’t put hope in banks. Haha, I remember asking a Customer Care attendant this week- ‘Are we fighting?’ because the way she was speaking to me ehn…like I had flogged her in her dream the previous night. Anyway, try to make plan B whenever you have to do things in the bank.

2. Love isn’t really a feeling, but a decision: This week, I spent time meditating on 1 Corinthians 13. I put my name wherever I saw ‘Love’. One that stood out for me was- ‘Love keeps no records of wrong’. Bolaji keeps no records of wrong. It’s not easy to forgive and FORGET, but if we claim to love like Jesus, we should pray for grace to blot out transgressions- the way God blots out ours. The love walk isn’t easy, especially if it’s one you’re battling with for those closest to you. That’s why 1 Corinthians 13 comes handy. The Bible always has a word for everything.

3. God hears and answers prayers: I remember seeing someone’s post on Facebook, he said things aren’t changed through prayers, but through teaching. I don’t know where he got that and with the comments, I was sad for people. I would still write a post on following these ‘Social Media Men of God and Business gurus’. If you don’t read the Bible for yourself and accept everything a ‘role-model’ says, you’d only harm yourself. I agree that teaching changes things, but you can’t tell me that prayers don’t work. I had been asking God for a prayer partner for a while. I want to be more disciplined with my prayer life and wanted someone I could constantly pray with. A day after I said that prayer (in my heart) again, a friend from a group messaged me and shared how someone had asked her to ask me if I could be her prayer partner. Haha. I smiled because I didn’t have to beg or hustle for her attention, I prayed and God heard and answered. I love how He answers the simplest things, even those we don’t say out loud.

4. People disappear when it’s time to pay debt: I learned this one last week. LOL. If I tell this story ehn, it will not finish till 2025. People can swear and lick sand to show that they will pay you your money back- if you borrow them. But when you do, they forget your number and refuse to pick calls. Pastor Sam always says everyone should try not to owe- but that if you do, don’t become a ghost after that. Let the person you owe know what’s up and give a tentative date that you will able to pay- shikena!


These are my lessons this week. What are yours?

I believe that if we truly take out time to BE PRESENT, we would learn from any and everything. There’s a lesson learned everyday- if only we take out time to notice.

I’m thankful for my daily lessons. Some of them might not be nice, but they’re lessons all the same.

What have you learned this week? Remember to share!

Love always,


P.S: Wednesday Posts should resume this month. By God’s grace. I hope you like social development like me?

This post was ready by 4am on Friday. Somehow, data & a host of other things got in it’s way. I apologize.

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  • an Black

    I love the bit that love is not a feeling, but a decision. How I normally put is that LOVE IS NOT AN EMOTION, BUT A DUTY- for a Christian, that is.

    Last week I relearned that one must guard against expecting kindness just because one was kind or even from people one was kind to. I learnt this originally from two non-scriptural sources, but in the past week, I’ve learnt it all over again. An actual experience this week made me see that at some level, subconsciously at least, I expected care and kindness from people I’ve been especially good to. When one young brother in whose life I’ve repeatedly made positive contributions said in an unguarded moment that it was always about what he could get- and he was in my house and eating my food to boot-I felt a pang. I shouldn’t have. Over the years I’ve noticed that he tends to disappear whenever I have serious problems to deal with. However, I tried to count it as aught and hence didn’t get an insight into the trait earlier.

    As he made the statement and I noticed the emotion it stirred in me, I smiled and contemplated how not-strong one can get even in areas one imagines some strength. I was reminded that the Christian does kindness not like an investment, not in expectation of anything from any man, but because our love for Father makes it impossible for us not to do good deeds. I smiled again and when I later took the guy to task about his words and attitude, I laughed at him all through- I was that tickled.

    • Wow! I loveeee your lesson for the week. So true!
      It happened to me today. I helped a pregnant lady carry her bag to church. And after the service, I saw her again and a part of me wanted to hear – ‘Thanks!’ from her.
      I had to reevaluate why I was kind to her.
      We love and show kindness not because we want something back, but because God’s love propels us to.

      I’m adding this to my lessons this Friday!
      Thank you. So good to have you back.

  • Hey,
    Make I mark register.

    “There is a particular bank I always pray before I step in- because they specialize in annoying people.”
    🙂 🙂 🙂 :-). #quote from a friend#

    This week, I learnt that when people feel deserted or unwanted, that alone can kill faster than any sickness.

    Please call everybody, my father is owner of MTN.

    There is a sister of mine, I have been calling often because I felt she needs it and there is another I have not been calling because I also felt she’s got iron in her blood. Only for one I have not been calling to discover I have been calling the other and then she flared up.

    I will still have to clean up the mess anyway. But now I know better.

    Please stop feeling, start calling.

    Thanks for sharing.

    I am YouthAglow!

    • Haha! Thanks for sharing your lesson for the week.
      Funny, but it’s very true.
      I’m trying to be better at checking on people and reminding them I’m here to help if they need me.

      God help us to let those we love know it…
      We need to stop feeling and start calling!



  • Ah things aren’t changed through prayers ke? What kind of teaching is that? Even Jesus prayed for his disciples and for we that would come to hear the word and know Him. He even prayed for Peter when he said the devil wanted to sift him but He has prayed for Him. Prayer is important, teaching too, no one denies that but prayer is essential. We teach, we pray, we edify, we worship, just ensure you’re communicating with God and making your requests known. How else will I pray that my labour of love will not be in vain or that God should strengthen me to love irrespective of my feelings or emotions? Jesus prayed and He received strength, Prayer has changed marriages and turned things around, it has softened hearts and that’s how we access the father. Let me just stop there for now before I write something else. You’re right about following ‘Social-media’ men of God. But you’re mean o babe. lol. See the tag. There was a time I had to cut the number of people I was following because I just wanted to unclog and have God flow through His word more than what I was reading or hearing. Others are supplements, His word is the meat gangan.
    Glad you found your prayer partner. You that you use to keep things inside yourself before. lol

    Lmao @the debtors. When it’s time to pay they turn to something else. Infact…
    I learned so many things from God this week it felt like a rushing wind at once, as if I broke open and it came pouring in. Would share as time goes on.

    Much love. xo!

    • Haha. Thanks sis for sharing!

      You’ve said the truth o. It’s dangerous taking everything from ‘Social-media’ men of God, because you can’t test their depth like that…
      We live in dangerous times biko.

      Haha. I don’t know if I have started sharing stuff with my prayer partner sef, God help me! 😁😁

      It’s Monday and I’ve already started learning lessons for this new week. God is so faithful.

      I’m glad you’re a learner too, learning from Jesus daily…

      Love you sis. 💚💚💚

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