Hey hey hey
I was reading a blog post where a godly couple had shared how they met and their story was truly beautiful.
At the end of their interview, they were asked about Zodaic signs and if they believed in it; they didn’t. It’s not that they said it doesn’t exist, but they just believed in the higher law and power of the Holy Spirit.
Anyway, that got me thinking…can zodiac signs bring me to ‘the one’ if I studied them and followed all the beliefs?
I didn’t even think about it twice. Lol. Zodaic signs ko, signs Zodaic ni.
The desperation is real guys! It’s sad to see how many marriages breakup- marriages that were ‘goals’ to many.
One advise I’d like to share is that you make your relationship your own goals! Think about it, will you date you? Take a step back, reflect and think…will you date you if you were someone else?
Forget what people think about you on social media, will you marry you? Like, with all the things going on with you privately?
Will it be nice to attach another person to you?
Let us answer these questions objectively.
It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t recognize or admire couples that are TRULY GODLY, but let’s not make them goals or use them as a yardstick. Some become so obsessed, they even think they will meet their spouse if they do exactly the same things someone did. It’s sad.
I know you’re wondering, what’s the correlation of all I’ve written with the title of this post. I’d share what God told me sometime back when I asked Him questions about my future partner.
He said- Follow Me.
Do you want to meet or find your future spouse?
Why? Your intellect is not great enough to find you a mate! Can you make someone fall into deep sleep and make another human from them? Can you take from someone’s ribs and add to another?
If you can’t, then you can’t find you a mate- a mate that will walk with you through life and serve God with you till the very end. Not till the end of divorce.
Here’s the best way to find your soulmate- follow God.
Somehow, in that path, in that space where you’re fervently seeking the Lord and obeying Him- He will send you your mate.
I get it.
I get that it can be ‘lonely’. It can be ‘somehow’ with all them BellaNaija daily posts and engagement pictures, but who said you have to follow these handles?
If you fall into jealousy or envy when you scroll through some pictures, why not unfollow?
It’s not by force o.
The interesting thing is that all the couples I admire found themselves while in the will of God. They were somehow following God when they met their partner who was ALSO following God.
God told me to rest. He said, REST!
Stop all them calculations.
It is sad and alarming, the number of young believers in relationships they CLEARLY know are out of God’s will for their lives. You don’t need a prophet to tell you whether or not a guy/lady suits you when you have the Holy Spirit in you to direct you. But how many yield to His leading?
Don’t let ‘loneliness’ or solitude for a while push you to make a decision of a lifetime without God.
No need to run ahead of God. Remember that to follow someone, you need to walk behind them.
Follow God, because that’s the only authentic way to find your ‘soulmate’.
Encouraging scriptures to ponder on:
I would like you to be free from worry. An unmarried man concerns himself with the Lord’s work, because he is trying to please the Lord. But a married man concerns himself with worldly matters, because he wants to please his wife; and so he is pulled in two directions. An unmarried woman or a virgin concerns herself with the Lord’s work, because she wants to be dedicated both in body and spirit; but a married woman concerns herself with worldly matters, because she wants to please her husband. I am saying this because I want to help you. I am not trying to put restrictions on you. Instead, I want you to do what is right and proper, and to give yourselves completely to the Lord’s service without any reservation.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 GNB
(You might actually wish for the time you have now when you finally marry. Why not wholeheartedly serve the Lord with your undivided attention?)
Instead, be concerned above everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all these other things. So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings.
Matthew 6:33-34 GNB
(I just love how the Good News Bible puts this.)
I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for.
Jeremiah 29:11 GNB
For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.
Isaiah 54:5 ESV
Light and love,