Here’s why you are a THIRSTY Single…

Here’s why you are a THIRSTY Single…

Hey hey hey…


Let’s be truthful, many of us are (or used to be) thirsty. And it’s not for water.

Few months ago, I realized that I was no longer serious with my fitness plan. Obviously, I started gaining back the weight I had lost, but I gave myself a mental consolation. I told myself I was going to be fit when I found my fit partner so that we can be fit together. Thirsty.

If we’re really close and talked about size before, you’d know that I don’t believe people are big because they have big bones. Yes, the family might have big members but no one has a fat skeleton. I have friends who admire men with big bodies. That’s nice, they probably want big bear hugs.

This is not about me trying to give criteria, but God knows I’d rather marry a slim guy. (I know this sounds very worldly, but I can’t lie about this.)

So, imagine me giving myself excuse that I will work for the body I want when I meet the guy that has the body I want. LOL. This is something I can work on NOW, but I was deceiving myself and telling myself sweet lies. Sounds familiar?

Then I went for my first THE WOMEN AT THE WELL meet and Aunty Salt shattered that line of thought. (Though I had stopped thinking like that. I needed someone who had been there…)

The point of this post is what I’m about to share from what I read yesterday.



39 Many Samaritans from the village believed in Jesus because the woman had said, “He told me everything I ever did!” 40 When they came out to see him, they begged him to stay in their village. So he stayed for two days, 41 long enough for many more to hear his message and believe. 42 Then they said to the woman, “Now we believe, not just because of what you told us, but because we have heard him ourselves. Now we know that he is indeed the Savior of the world.”

I have read this story countless times and could share it without checking my Bible. But I had never noticed this part, and that was why I was thirsty for a partner.

I wanted to share this post as ‘Lessons from Aunty Salt‘, but I got her message better when I studied John 4 yesterday. Oh, before I go on, let me share that I now officially have a list. You know the list people make for future partners…I wouldn’t share all but these are some-

  • My husband must be a priest- which means he must be a praying man.
  • A man who corrects me unto love and not condemnation.
  • A fit and fine man who looks his best at all times. (I added ‘Just as I’m working on this part of my life.’ LOL)
  • He must secure me in his trust and should not use other women to make me jealous.
  • Read the Bible daily and freely talk about God.

Under all points I wrote ‘These are my deal breakers and I ask for grace to be all of these and more when you meet me. Amen.’

I laugh as I write, because I’m amazed at how these points seemed far-fetched only because I had paused working on myself. It was as if I had paused what God wanted to do in my life because I was hoping it will all fall in place when I meet Mr Man. Thirsty.

Back to John 4. I meditated on it yesterday and prayed to be more like this Samaritan woman at the well. I needed to stop breaking my own heart and focus on what was happening to me internally. I needed to stop being so thirsty.


39 Many Samaritans from the village believed in Jesus because the woman had said, “He told me everything I ever did!” 40 When they came out to see him, they begged him to stay in their village. So he stayed for two days, 41 long enough for many more to hear his message and believe. 42 Then they said to the woman, “Now we believe, not just because of what you told us, but because we have heard him ourselves. Now we know that he is indeed the Savior of the world.”

I needed to focus on what was important RIGHT NOW. I love God and am unashamed of my salvation. But like this woman, I needed to know that I also need to share. Like her, I needed people to look at me and say- ‘Now we believe, not just because of what you told us, but because we have heard him ourselves. Now we know that he is indeed the savior of the world.

But how will that happen if I’m busy hoping, waiting, thirsty that I will automatically become better AFTER I had a partner. Please, is he Jesus?

If I wasn’t allowing Jesus to change me, no partner from Mars could change me. It’s that simple!

Aunty Salt said-

  • Stay in your position, practice well with Jesus.
  • Get your relationship with God tight. It’s in the middle of God’s will that He’d find you.
  • You’re already complete as a single.
  • Are you loving Jesus well?
  • Tune your frequency to God’s voice.
  • How much time are you spending with God?
  • Going into marriage God’s way is like the way Jesus went to the cross. (READY!)
  • You’re created to be a plus to a man, not a minus.
  • If you do a pie-chart of you life today, what’s God’s slice? (This wowed me.)
  • Sometimes you think your time is going, but God is helping you and preparing you because you can’t go into marriage the way you are. (MY BEST POINT.)
  • What is God telling you to do while you’re waiting?


How can you remain thirsty for a man after reading this? Are you deeply rooted in Christ first?

Aunty Salt reminded us about when Adam and Eve sinned and got cursed. Eve’s curse was that she will begin to feel pain during child-birth and that her longing will be for her husband.


Genesis 3:16

To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”


Why should that be a curse?

Because her longing was never meant to be for a mere man. That space was for God alone. But now, she had to become thirsty and basically worship Adam. And often, we find women who allow men rule over them. They see signs during courtship, but go ahead to marry because they refused to breakaway from Eve’s curse.

How do you break free from this thirsty curse?

How do you become thirsty for the right man? Jesus.

By being like the woman at the well in John 4. When Jesus told her her story, she didn’t try to cover it up or give excuses. She didn’t try to justify her behavior or call Jesus a liar.

She accepted her past and allowed Him take hold of her future. Then, she took her testimony to others, up till a point where they believed not only because of her testimony; but because they had experienced God themselves.

Life as a single can be so satisfying, especially if you’re thirsty for the right person.


If it’s your first time here, welcome! Don’t be alarmed about how truthful I am about my journey as a believer. There’s no point forming when God already sees our hearts.

Don’t wait till you’re married to improve things you can work on as a single. Ko le werk. Lol. (It can’t work.)


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Have a blessed time ahead.

I’m sorry I didn’t post anything on Monday. I was and still am on thirsty journey for God. I do not want to feel pressured to share things externally when my inner man needs encouragement.

See ya later!




  • Bukola

    awwwww…. weldone..God will help us… no slacking rara.. we need to start now…
    …. couldnt come for Women at the well … Aunt Salt… see wisdom and hot words from above…

  • Just smiling all through this. Confirmation for twtw topic this weekend.

    Are we filled?

    Am I filled?
    Am I filled?

    How can I be filled by God?
    What steps do I need to take?

    How do I get on them now…

    Lord help us…

    • When I saw the topic that Dee is supposed to lead, I smiled too because it was familiar to today’s post.

      Being filled is not something you wait for…
      Or something you have to wait on a partner for.

      May God help us, even now…

  • Chinenye

    Wow…. Just yesterday night , I Finally got to write my list of what I wanted in my man and my relationship. but as I was writing, I still felt something was missing and I felt God was trying to make me understand something but I couldn’t just place it and then God used this post to make me understand what he was trying to say. Wow…. Thank you Jesus. I keep saying it He is just so amazing. God bless you Mobolaji.. you are indeed a blessing

    • Wow! God does not do coincidences o. I’m so glad this was a word in due season for you. God wants to give us awesome partners, but have we allowed Him mold us into awesome ladies?
      Aunty Salt at the meeting talked about she stooping to conquer in her marriage. I don’t think I have gotten to that stage where I can stoop in marriage to conquer, but I will get there…that’s why I must first be deeply rooted and filled in marriage.

      As you’ve said, God is amazing. He loves us too much to put us into palava. Lol.
      God bless you too sis. All glory to God.

  • aramide

    Thanks Mobolaji, this posted further elaborated what I learnt on Saturday. The TWTW meet was awesome, that pie chart also struck me, what percentage am I giving God?
    This word hasn’t stopped ringing in my head “my marriage must reflect God’s Kingdom on earth”

    “When Jesus told her, her story she didn’t try to cover it up or gives excuses, she didn’t justify her behaviour or call Jesus a liar” This spoke to me, how open am I to God’s correction, His rebuke even His love.

    The TWTW meet wasn’t just awesome, it was Spirit filled and yeah am glad I saw you.

    • Aww, so glad I saw you too!

      I thought about that today and even prayed about it. On WWIW, we fast and pray for our hubbys on Wednesday and that’s part of what I prayed about. That my family must reflect God’s kingdom and that our Children will love God and learn about Him through us.
      It’s a powerful prayer.

      The part about God’s correction- God help us all. He already sees our hearts so no need covering up…

      TWTW was beautiful… So glad I went.

  • Oyinda


    True my dear…
    I am just short of words because this is exactly What i had in mind for ‘Let’s Talk Women’ episode for this month….

    ‘Don’t waste your Single Period’

    It just struck me that i haven’t even mentioned a lot of things…. I am so doing another video!

    Thanks love, i am deeply encouraged…
    May God help us to seek, find, and Fall inlove with him even as a single.!

    We are Single with God!

  • Michael

    Whao!!! Great post Mobolaji.
    I remember how God once told me: “You desire a woman after God’s heart? become a man after His heart first.

  • Thank you so much B’ for this word in season. God’s heart beat is to satisfy us with His living water but are we ready to be filled in and with Him?

    After Frances assigned the topic to me, I had to re-study John 4 and Vs 42 stood out just as you highlighted.

    God help me. God help us. To prioritise being thirsty for and filled with Him, especially now we are still single.

  • Thanks for the post. One can’t just stop laughing reading your messages. Are you a Ghanaian ?

    Now that, I have finally subscribed to your blog. That implies you must post whether you like it or not. :-).

    Omobolaji: The child that wakes with wealth. Keep up the good work, your days of glory has just been activated. Start doing push up for your season of encounter.

    Your expectations shall not be cut short.

    I am YouthAglow! 🙂

    • Hey! Lol.
      I’m Nigerian. ☺

      I will keep posting as God leads na. Haha. I don’t plan to stop.

      Amen and amen to your prayers. Thank you so much!
      I love how you explained my name, though I know the meaning. I needed the reminder… Thank you.

      God bless you YouthAglow. Keep glowing, God has big plans!

  • Tosin

    The part that got to me most was”if my life was a pie-chart, what slice is God’s”.
    Thanks for the explanation on thirst for God instead for thirst for husband.
    I was reading the book of Matthew where Jesus said ‘blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled”. the Holy spirit impressed on me to pray daily for a fresh thirst for righteousness.
    God above all things. Pst Bimbo Odukoya said its good to have a good marriage but it is our relationship with God that truly satisfies. I used to think then that once you get married , all issues are fixed. But now i know better and that statement is very true. ONLY GOD CAN SATISFY.
    Omobolaji, i love reading your blog, am so glad there are blogs one can read and get refreshed and rejuvenated in the midst of the filth in this world. God bless you dear.

    • I have to admit, that part got me too! How can I be ‘looking for man’, when God’s slice on my pie-chart can be more. What then happens when the man comes? Will he take the place of God in my life?
      These questions are hard because they show our hearts, but they also help us see that God wants a deeper walk with us.

      I also stumbled on the verse Matthew 10:37- “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” I started thinking when I saw this again. Lol.

      Indeed, a good marriage is great, but only God satisfies. Marriage has been seen as the utmost achievement in life- meanwhile salvation and a relationship with God are the greatest achievements anyone could have- all because God is good.

      Thank you for reading. The way the world is, we must become more deliberate about what we see, read, etc. If we don’t take hold of our minds with Godly content, we can get carried away.

      Have a great time ahead.

      Love, Mobolaji.

  • Victory

    MO, I just stumbled on your blog and believe me, am captivated.
    This post was written about 4years ago for this season of my life in 2020 (4 years later). God has no accidents and HE led me to this blog intentionally to give me answers to questions that have been lurking in my heart of hearts. I’m blessed to read this and I’m falling in love with this blog already. God bless you abundantly MO and keep your heart for HIM. I anticipate to meet you one day.

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