Hey hey hey!
I’ve grown so much this past academic year and learned lessons. Here are 5 that I can remember. (Apparently, there are 6 lessons here. I numbered wrongly at first, but let’s just keep the title. Thank you.)
1. God is faithful.
I wish I could write this a million and one times. I remember the post where I poured my heart out and shared a picture of the provisions I brought to school for this semester.
This has by far been one of the most difficult semesters for me in terms of provisions, luxury and pocket money. 😂
This has been the only semester that I resumed without knowing where my fees will come from. But I knew it will come.
The how was left to God.
I remember now the week I spent at home because I was driven back for lack of payment. That week, we still didn’t know if I’d make it, but I heard “Paid in full” twice. It was hard to believe because the circumstances looked negative.
There was a Monday I preached one “hot” encouraging message in school fellowship. And immediately after, I got a call on another disappointment concerning this School fees issue.
My dear, I watch it in the movies, but this time I cried from fellowship (no one saw me after) till I got home. I didn’t even care who was watching abeg.
Every night I poured out my heart to God that I didn’t want to be put to shame.
Ahh, that one week broke my mother’s heart! I always laughed when speaking to my family and told them I was glad to have my own “mini break”, but my heart was broken.
I’d get info from my roomie everyday about what happened in school…
Any which way, GOD PAID MY FEES.
And His word was true because it was PAID IN FULL!
The details still marvel me but let me just state again-
The God I serve, the one who saved me and gave me purpose and a new name, the King of kings, Ancient of days, never changing one IS FAITHFUL.
GOD IS FAITHFUL!
2. Friends influence you.
One time during my last holiday, I left home and forgot to tell my mum that I’d spend the night at my sister’s place. My mum doesn’t like that thing one bit!
She said something when she called that made me laugh. She said that “you that tells me even when you’re going to the toilet in Ghana want to now refuse telling me your whereabouts in Nigeria.”
She meant that even though we’re miles apart, she knows my every move. If I’m staying at a family’s place I am close to here, I tell her.
I look at the people around me too and I’m grateful. I don’t have many close friends here, but the ones I have influence me as I influence them.
A friend has told me before that she has worn a cloth and said to herself- “Bolaji will complain about this gown when I get to her house” and changed it. 😂
You might think that the kind of friends you keep isn’t a big deal, but it is a BIG deal!
I see people in Ghana who are living reckless lives because their parents aren’t here. Some people only show up for exams, in spite of how hard their parents are working to send them here.
But I look around them and see that you can’t really be greater than your association.
3. You are stronger than you think.
You’d not think you can withstand somethings until they happen to you.
When I wrote my last paper, I started singing “My God is awesome.”
Wait, so Bolaji is in final year?
If you ask me how I’ve managed since I started school, I can’t give you a correct explanation because I’d just be blabbing.
Last week, I was reading an old Journal and saw where I wrote that I saw a vision that I was on a stage somewhere and I could see my dad and mum in the front row smiling at me with pride!
I had totally forgotten writing that down but I believe God let me see that again, to encourage me.
Ahh, you think I’m joking when I say this semester hasn’t been sexy?
But guess who’s going home next week???!
Yes, you guessed right!
4. Family is a gift from God.
I have this journal from my early teen years that I need to find so I can tear the pages. I used to write so many nonsensical things about my sisters.
My immediate sister seniors me with more than 5 years, so you can imagine.
Growing up, I felt the gap. I felt different from them and didn’t always understand ‘the adult things’ they said. Lol.
I thought I was hated and no one understood me as I was the baby of the house.
Though, when I was small, they were my backup o, because you don’t want to mess with me with the kind of parents and sisters I have. They will come after you. 😂😂😂
Just kidding, we’re gentle people.
(Side note: I just remembered now one time I was sitting home Without admission. I was the only one out of my friends that hadn’t entered school, so I used to stay in my mum’s shop a lot. I still love staying there sef.
Anyway, there was a woman who came to buy something and treated me bad. She now lied against me again. Ahh, it pained me. So I reported her when my mum got back and started crying in the process that if I was in school, no one will be treating me anyhow inside our shop. Chai, I was a clown!
I was only telling my mum for telling sake, but she went to meet this woman and supported me!
No fight, nothing, she just went to support me. And I was still sad because of school, but happy.
So, that’s how defensive we can be.
Don’t even get me started on one time my “unbornagain side” came out when one young man wanted to beat my dad in my presence. This side note is long o, but buy my first book when it is released to hear the full gist on what I did to protect my dad. I didn’t know God that time, so don’t blame me.)
Back to our point. Family is a gift from God, no matter how imperfect the individuals are!
One day I wrote on twitter how blessed I am for the age gap between I and my sisters o. Ahh, this God plans things way before time.
Because if there was no gap; then they’d probably still be in school too, doing NYSC (Nigeria Youth Service Corps) and the likes.
Then who for dey send me chop money? (Who would have been supporting me?)
Woo, I need to find that journal because my family has been a gift from God!
I need to tear those papers because I didn’t know what I was writing.
5. Be sensitive to know those that God has placed in your life.
In early posts of this year, I must have shared that God said 2016 will be a year of stretching for me. Indeed, He hasn’t lied.
The beautiful thing I have noticed is that God will not leave you stranded when it comes to people you’d need at every point in your life. In fact, personally, I’ve noticed too many times that God allows me to experience some things in order to guide someone else.
So many things happen to me and I learn my lessons. Then few days or weeks after, I find people asking me for advise on that same matter.
I’ve noticed it with people I’ve also asked for guidance in different areas of my life. They are able to better help me because of their own experiences and I am not blind to the fact that it is God that places these people around me.
6. You’re not too young for anything.
Do you know that I don’t like to say my age?
Yes o. I know many people already know especially from this post on Our Anniversary; but I think it’s because most of my friends are older. However, I’m so grateful for this!
It goes back to point number 2 on friends influencing us. I’ve stretched and become much more mature because of those I interact with. Registering an NGO and walking in purpose at the age of 21 is not a taboo. In fact, 21 is old for God! Lol. Go and ask Jeremiah that was complaining about his age when God called him to be a Prophet, he was a youth. Pretty young one too.
So, how can age be an excuse for you not to perform exploits?
My dear, go in the name of God and perform wonders.
Those are my lessons.
I’m sorry I couldn’t post yesterday. I had activities from morning till night. Today sef is pretty loaded. I have to do all I can before I leave because this is a looooong break. 🙌💁💃😱🎤😊
We still need to set things in place for GEMGirl (an organization cofounded by me to groom teenage girls to become responsible citizens.) We haven’t really started things in line with that, but have spoken at a school so far. It was so fulfilling and awesome.
I wish I had that when I was younger too.
I’m spending nothing less than 3 months at home and I’m glad biko!
Anyway, I’d love to meet as many of my efamily members as possible!
I’ve hooked up with amazing destiny friends from this blog and I give glory to God.
Frances will be holding another ‘The Women at the Well’ meeting. It’s a safe community of destiny friends who love Jesus and one another. And I can’t wait to see her and other friends too.
This love for Lagos, I haven’t seen what can change it. Lol.
Even though drivers wait for me to cross the road in Ghana, I forgive those that don’t in Nigeria.
Have a blessed weekend ahead.
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Love Love Love always,