Hope you Wednesday has been awesome so far? If not, it’s not too late to add a little sunshine to your day and create your own happiness!
I really wish I could go on talking about happiness and different kinds of sunshines today; but I have decided to rant a little to all the lovely ladies of virtue out there! Let me begin by asking, is it true that husbands are expensive in the market? (Please! I really need answers on this one. Share your opinion in the comment box. I am begging!)
This question is one that I personally already have an answer to, but it will still be nice to know other’s views on it. Let me tell you why…
So, early Sunday morning while I and four other ladies were struggling to use the mirror in the female restroom in church; an interesting conversation started. I do not know why the question was directed at me and I do not particularly remember the question; but I do remember my answer – “I do not think I would be married in the next five years.” (Please, hear me out before you join the mob!)
Ahh, the response I got was funny paapaa! With eyes like these O_O, these ladies bombarded me! “Ahh, are you serious!”, “No, that must be a joke!”, “Better stop cursing yourself there!” were the kind of responses I got. The one that hit me most though was non other but this- “Baby, oko wan lode o; If I see one this year sef, I will marry!” The Yoruba means “Baby(or friend), husbands are expensive in the market o!” And she did not mean it in a ‘Good men are scarce’ way.
To be very honest, I did not know that husbands were really expensive in our markets. Has any of you priced one before? I guess not.
Let me dwell a bit on why I do not think I would be married in the next five years. First of all, I am in my 200level! Not that people cannot get married in school; but I cannot! We have a lot of matured students in Ghana and I always wonder how they juggle it all together. They come to sit in a class for hours, after spending the whole day at work; not forgetting that they have families. But somehow it works for them.
However, though I am not married and attend morning school because I do not work; I still cannot juggle school and marriage. I really cannot. Please, let me CLEARLY state these are MY plans o. Though, I know that God has not also asked me to marry while in school. So, next two years down.
Also, I will serve(a whole year) and begin to find out more about myself; and what God has planned for me after school. After service (National Youth Service Corps) in Nigeria, I can start considering . So, next 3 years down.
The remaining 2 of the 5 years I mentioned will be left to God
and not friends to decide what He wants me to do! Simple as ABC. NOTE: THIS IS NOT TO SAY HE IS NOT IN CHARGE OF ALL MY YEARS, BOTH NOW AND FUTURE ONES.
You see, ladies (especially we single ones); we need to let God work on our belief systems and teach us things. God does not want any of us to believe that we have a time-limit to get married. I mean, are we competing or what?
Please and please, get it out from your head that men are expensive and as such; we must hook one and get married as soon as possible. When I heard that statement that men are expensive; I just laughed and teased them by saying- “You people should leave me; this is mission 2020!”
If you are single (or not); what you should be concerned with is how to add value to yourself and become a better person in all aspects of life. Yearn to grow spiritually, academically, financially, materially, intellectually and in many more ways.
Truth is, if you want to get married this year, You can! You can hook ANY MAN and begin a relationship right now. However, remember that the men after God’s heart are not just any men.
Do not push to want to be Mrs. so soon. Push to a Miss who is so deeply rooted in Christ that when the Mr. comes; God will remain at the center of your lives!
Well guys, that’s it for today! I just had to share with you sisters (and brothers) of mine that I think we need to focus more on maximizing singlehood.
That’s why you may want to read PraiseLetter7 which centers not on age or time; but a union approved by God. Love Letters on imperfectlyperfectlives and Dear Diary on Glowingscenes are awesome too because they talk about learning not to lose your identity because you are waiting for Mr. or Miss Right to show up.
I think people are no longer searching for expensive men/women in the market though. The demand has shifted to men/women of worth who have been beautified by Jesus.
Have a great week ahead. You can still accomplish much in the two working days left!
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