REDEFINED MASCULINITY: THE DANGER CALLED COMPROMISE…

Hey hey hey!

My brother from the same FATHER, Adewale, asked me this morning if I had abandoned the world for ‘us’. Lol. I don’t know what he meant by the ‘us’, but I sure have not abandoned the world, well, except we mean it in the spiritual context. Lol.

I started an internship/mini-job, moved to evening school and just suddenly got swamped. I didn’t intend to share this on the blog, but I just want you to know that I wasn’t away because I wanted to be. I’m now learning how to manage my time and I’m just grateful for your love, support and prayers. Before I move to today’s topic, I want to encourage you to pray more for your friends.

If your friends only get blessed by your prayers, how many of them will be blessed like you. Some of us sing our names to the ears of God morning, afternoon and night. I have been lazy in this area too but I started something today- MY INTERCESSORY JOURNAL. I have decided not to put any personal prayer point in this particular one. I write names of friends and pray as led. Even when people don’t check up or call you as you’d like, you should still pray for them because you never know what they are going through.

Before I make this a whole post, let me move on.

REDEFINED MASCULINITY – COMPROMISE WILL ABORT YOUR DESTINY.

I have met many men who can compromise for Africa. This is not a post to judge anyone, I am not perfect, but because women have been lectured and taught for so long, men don’t think much of compromise. A little here, a little there…

You can’t serve God wholeheartedly or reach potential if you like to compromise.

Compromise: to find a way between extremes. To cause impairment of. To breach.

There are many definitions, but these are the ones I’d like to focus on.

 

“Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego answered, “Your majesty, we will not try to defend ourselves. If the God whom we serve is able to save us from the blazing furnace and from your power, then he will. But if he doesn’t, Your majesty may be sure that we will not worship your god, and we will not bow down to the gold statue that you have set up.”

Daniel 3:16-18

 

I compromised last week with a lie, went into the bathroom and wished for the ground to open and swallow me. I felt guilty and ashamed; but now I understand that it is the wrong type of fear that causes one to lie.

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego could have compromised by bowing to the King’s idol. They could have said ‘Sebi it is just to bow once, God will understand’ or ‘This King has been good to us. He even gave us positions above our peers, how can we disobey him now?’ or ‘Everyone is doing it.’

But it is not until you have an idol that the whole city can see that you can bow. These days, idols look and seem very small.

For many men, it is sex. I’d like to ask a question- Who says women don’t want to have sex? I’m asking because I am tired of the excuse that men are created differently and have higher urges for sex than women. Valid point, but sounds like compromise all the same.

About sexual sins, the bible doesn’t say pray, it says FLEE. Don’t keep making excuses for compromise, ask God for help.

As believers, how will they describe you? Will you smile, laugh and make small talk about women and join dirty talk; and then expect friends to listen when you talk about God?

I’d never know how it feels to follow Jesus as a man, but you can and that’s beautiful. Keep friends that will help reset your thoughts and actions. Trust me, the truth can sometimes be a slap in the face but you will be thankful for it later.

Like these three men in the bible, make up your mind to serve God without compromise.

Trust me, you will make mistakes and fall many times, but God’s hands are wide open to the repentant heart.

Don’t ever make excuses for yourself because you’re a man and expect that God or people will get it.

Like our last REDEFINED MASCULINITY post, remember why you are here. Your life’s purpose should influence your actions per time. If you know the life God has called you to, then you know that compromise is a long-term road to abortion, of dreams, hopes and eternity.

Our title today seems heavy. Haha. But it is the truth. Even in my life, I know my weaknesses and few ways I compromise. I know that some things will not pay me in the longrun. Especially if I want to please God and fulfill destiny.

You know how and in what area you’ve been compromising.

God might be showing you right now what He wants to help you with. Don’t take any wrong mindset masculinity to God, instead, be vulnerable and let Him do His work in your life.

I hope and pray that you will be a better man because of Jesus and not try to hide His work or calling upon your life.

Amen!

 


 

Read books by Myles Munroe and LETTERS TO OUR FATHERS by Mobolaji Olorisade.

Above these, read your bible!

Love, Mobolaji.


 

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4 thoughts on “REDEFINED MASCULINITY: THE DANGER CALLED COMPROMISE…

  1. Hmmn, true. Just like the men God referred to when Elijah was discouraged. It would be interesting to see more men live lives according to God’s standards and not compare it with any standard that falls short.
    Lovely post Bolaji! xx

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