Hey hey hey!
Happy new month my efamily. The love grows for you daily!
Blossom with Bolaji (BWB in June) will be posts on lessons I’ve learned from my mentors.
I’m starting with a beautiful lady called Funto!
I knew Funto Ibuoye sometime early last year.
She’s the covener of #Becoming, a conference which holds every year under The Beautified Network. #Becoming was probably the first event I ever paid for! And I don’t regret it. (Another one holds this year and I’d be there by God’s grace.)
Funto is so relatable and shares her ‘blogs’ on Instagram. I have been blessed various times by her ‘Wordy’ posts.
If you know Gaise Baba (musician with purpose), well, that’s her husband!
And guess what?
They both married as virgins!
Yes, in this same Nigeria, a man kept himself (through God’s grace) till his marriage.
I’ve stated that I’ve learned so much from her. One major lesson I got from her is that, whether you’re 19 or 90, God has a purpose for your life!
People always ask her how she manages time. She’s so inspiring and people think she’s ‘young’.
(She shared 25 lessons she learned as a 26 year old on Instagram- @ifunto. Look for that post and read it!)
She started out pretty young and wasn’t looking for fame. During NYSC, she gathered teenage girls in her home and invested in them!
Now, everyone sees her and thinks she’s an “overnight” success.
It didn’t happen overnight, it took time and sacrifice.
Proverbs 22:29 (NIV)
Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank.
God probably instructed her at that time to invest in the girls. The vision wasn’t as clear as it is now…
She just obeyed!
People always think that verse only refers to ‘official work’ or career, but if you’re diligent with the work God has put in your hands, it will make room for you!
She doesn’t know me personally, but that doesn’t mean! As Christians, I believe it’s almost impossible to lack mentors. Honestly, there are so many ahead of us that we can always learn a lesson or two from.
I know people think that mentors are only those who are super close to us, and that’s possible, but it’s not always so.
One day at school, I remember feeling so tired! I was alone and cried to my heart’s content because of all that was going on with me.
I was tired of the lack I saw.
Tired of confusion.
Tired of loneliness.
Just tired! Lol. I then asked for Funto’s mail on IG and sent her a looooong message.
I didn’t get a reply immediately, but I remember getting her reply on a day I needed her words!
In fact, what she shared with me was so insightful that I took out my new journal and wrote her whole reply in it.
It took two pages of my long journal but I didn’t mind.
I can’t share all with you, but one thing stands out-
“If you believe that God has called you to groom women or girls, then that’s what you yourself should be doing. Allow God groom you!” (Paraphrased.)
My perspective changed since I got that mail and I constantly read her reply anytime I need a push.
She doesn’t have to know the address of my house before I can learn from her.
We have big dreams and want to connect with awesome people- that’s fine.
(But it’s not until Fela and Tara Durotoye come and visit me in Ikorodu, from Victoria Garden City that I will learn from them!)
Funto has been a blessing to many younger ones like me. (Yes, I’m her younger sis. Lol)
She teaches me not to wait when God asks me to move instead…
What I mean is, not to wait till “I’m old enough” before I do things God places in my heart.
She doesn’t even know that one of her posts on IG was the answer to my confusion on our book. (Our- God and I)
I was still confused if it was really a book (or an article) when she hit the nail on the head in one of her posts.
I think she currently has 2 books- Beautified and Proverbs 31 woman.
She wrote Beautified probably at 22 or 23 and didn’t feel ‘qualified’ when she did!
However, she obeyed.
Let me tell you another thing I’ve learned-
You can’t know what’s really in store for you, if you don’t do that small thing now!
I’d like to believe that writing her first book so young, propelled her to many of the things she’s doing now.
I’ve been praying for destiny helpers for our book. God sent a lady yesterday and I was amazed at what she shared with me. She said writing her book made her a ‘counsellor’ because people she never knew called her to seek advice on relationship issues. Which was what she wrote about.
She never esperredit. (Expected it.)
Do you get my point?
You might be waiting for when the time is perfect and when you’re more qualified to do certain things, but is that what God said?
You’d never know what’s on the other side till you step out of that comfort zone.
Funto, if you ever read this, I’d like to say Thank You!
Thank you for obeying God and grooming ladies to #Become all they can be in Christ.
You’re so unashamed!
Unshamed of Christ.
I still have much to share about Funto, but this post will be too long.
If there’s anything you should remember from this post, it’s this-
If you feel like you’ve been called into a specific area, don’t wait for big breaks. Build capacity and invest in people, because the big breaks come after many small breaks!
Don’t dull yourself o.
If you have a relationship with God, He’d have started sharing things about your future with you.
Are you just going to wait till the future comes?
How are you preparing?
How are you investing in others?
If God shows you a vision that you’d be a heart surgeon in the future, are you still adamant on doing events and decor because people are making quick money from it?
Remember that what seems to be the norm now, may not be the same in the next 5 years.
God has gone ahead and is preparing each of us for our specific assignment!
I’m not saying it will be a walk in the park to pursue your purpose, but you can at least try!
I’d probably famz Funto till she gets to know me (small). Lol.
But I read this verse from Proverbs 31 ministries devotional and thought to share.
Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.” Psalm 143:8 (NIV)
Don’t just read this, meditate on it!
Let the words flow. Declare it and put your name in it.
Recite it EVERYDAY.
Entrust your life to God and see if He’d not beautify you.
She always talks about being directed by God and that’s what that scripture centers on.
Finally, She shared this video last week and I rushed to watch it.
You might cry at the end, but don’t forget to get your lesson.
Ultimately, God and His Word (in the Bible) are what will bring peace and fulfillment in your life.
That’s the only formula!
Thank you for reading!
My friends and I met up to pray today and it was great! All of us are in that ‘unqualified’ stage and we poured our hearts out today! I was so blessed.
Frances, Distinguished and Amaka, God bless you girls! 💚
I’m so grateful for the purposeful relationships I have with you guys! We’re pretty and on fire for Christ! Lol.
Our word on Monday resonated with a lot of people and I’m happy I shared. Click Slavery to catch up and share your thoughts.
Send a mail to firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d like to hangout 🙌🙌🙌 and pray. Or if you’d just like to share anything…
Have a fantastic time ahead.